My New Years Refuse-ions: 5 Things I’m Not Taking Into 2016


Happy New Year!

I don’t know about you, but I’ve never been a great new years resolutions keeper. No matter how uncomplicated a goal I set, I always find a way to fail within the first week.

One year, I even kept my resolution as simple as – take better care of my nails.


Well, I’m going to try doing this backwards this time. Instead of making resolutions, I’m going to make some refuse-ions. Here are a few things that I’m leaving behind.

My New Years Refuse-ions: 5 Things I’m Not Taking Into 2016

Obligatory “yes”-es

Trust me, I’ve come a long way in this category, but there is still definitely room for improvement.

Spreading my time, commitments, and energy too thin is a practice I need to stop. Stop saying ‘yes’ to people only because I feel obligated.

I’m not saying that I should say ‘no’ to something just because I don’t feel like doing it – many times the Lord wants us to say ‘yes’ to things that our feelings would not comply with.

The key, I believe, is to discern grace. Is the Lord giving me grace to back up this ‘yes’? If the grace is there, I can be confident that His strength and ability will be there as well.

Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them… ~Romans 12:6


This one is hard to confess. Who likes to admit that they have been harboring bitterness? But, if I’m completely honest, I must say that the secret thoughts of my heart have not been especially great towards a few circumstances and people.

Bitterness has indeed been lurking; hidden in the dark corners of my soul. So, I’m choosing to confess and let His love cast it out.

Sayonara bitterness!

See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled. ~Hebrews 12:5

Allowing bad starts to become bad endings

Why is it that I allow a bad start to my morning – sleeping in past my alarm; missing my quiet time; the frustration that comes with grumpy, whiny children – to dictate the rest of the day’s rhythm?

It’s time I start taking the reigns of my own attitude and intentionally place it back on the path of peace, gentleness, joy, and love.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, SELF-CONTROL.. ~Galatians 5:22-23

Late-night Netflix bingeing

Kids in bed and chores are done. Time to relax and plop myself down on the couch with the hubby for the next episode of whatever Netflix series we may be watching. One episode turns into 2… 3. Before I know it, it’s 10:30 and my intention to get to bed early to do some reading is officially wrecked.

I’m not planning on cutting out Netflix completely, but its at a point of needing some balance and moderation – especially since the 6th season of Parenthood FINALLY made it to the list!

I believe that even my leisure time should be spent intentionally. All my choices matter, including how I choose to spend my free time. I can choose to spend it in ways that cultivate distraction or cultivate dignity and godliness. Reading is a much better use of my leisure time.

Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil. ~Ephesians 5:15


I can’t stand the feeling of jealousy. Kinda like bitterness, it just feels gross. I especially notice it sneaking it’s way into my mind when I see the Lord using others in the ways I long for Him to use me…which is just silly.

Whether it’s jealousy of another persons gifts or talents, jealousy towards others’ success, or jealousy of their possessions – it’s never good.

Jealousy hinders our ability to love. It induces selfishness which leaves no room for gratefulness.

In my own words, I would define jealousy as wanting or feeling entitled to something that belongs to someone else. And ya know, I can think of another word that shares a similar definition – coveting. To be jealous is to covet.

Therefore, jealousy also needs to go! (help me, Lord!)

For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. ~James 3:16


  6 comments for “My New Years Refuse-ions: 5 Things I’m Not Taking Into 2016

  1. January 1, 2016 at 10:43 am

    That’s a great list of refuse-ions! Praying you and your family have a blessed 2016!

    Liked by 1 person

    • January 2, 2016 at 7:57 am

      Thanks so much, Jennifer! Happy New Year to you πŸ™‚

      Liked by 1 person

  2. January 3, 2016 at 12:23 pm

    Wise list. Happy New Year, Megan!

    Liked by 1 person

    • January 4, 2016 at 10:25 am

      Thanks πŸ™‚ Happy New Year to you too!!


  3. January 14, 2016 at 2:59 pm

    Letting go of an automatic “yes” wasn’t in my resolutions, but this morning I said a very difficult “no” to my manager at work. I was putting my family and baby ahead in priorities, and although it was uncomfortable to let someone down, I’m glad I said no.

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    • January 14, 2016 at 4:17 pm

      Good for you!!! It can be so hard!!! I’m such a people-pleaser. I really don’t like having to tell people no. But, like you said, for the sake of our families (and our sanity) we must. Thanks for commenting πŸ™‚


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